Resiliency is one of the foundational elements of a deep sense of inner peace. If there is something we don’t like about the experiences we are having in life, or how we handle stressful situations, then we need to build resiliency into our being. Above all, it’s time to take command and find a way to lift ourselves away from the things that cause pain or stress in life, physically and emotionally, and not allow them to stay with us or become a part of us. Now is the time to work specifically on resiliency. Here are 7 secrets to become highly resilient.
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What is Resiliency?
The ability to recover from, or adjust easily to, adversity or change.
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What is Emotional Resiliency?
The ability to go through any situation in life keeping emotions in a healthy state.
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Inner Resiliency Muscle Building
Here are seven ways for you to build a powerful inner resiliency muscle:
- If you take an emotional “hit,” find a way to shake it off quickly, both mentally and emotionally. We need to be able to steer the situation to safer ground, or better yet, successfully return to our normal, happy life. Have in place easy jump-to things you can go to that will quickly reset your emotions to normal:
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- Keep a list handy of some positive wisdom quotes that uplift you or get you back on track if you’ve gotten off course with your thoughts or emotions
- Have a favorite rallying song you can put on or hum to yourself
- Go to a park or a beach near you and spend time with nature
- Call a friend who will drop everything to team up with you to get you back on track, your very own personal peace champion
- Do an activity that restores your soul and helps you feel like YOU again
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- creating art
- a bubble bath
- drumming
- friends night out
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- Re-assert the truth. Use the statement, “This is not my truth; this is not THE truth.” This will serve to get you back into a state of right-thinking. Stating what is not our truth opens the way for what is true to be revealed and prevents what is not true from taking root in our beings. Repeat the statement until you feel your confidence return to your being.
- Re-establish the certainty within you that this is just a fleeting circumstance, not a part of you, and certainly nothing that defines you. Defy the illusion. Say out loud “this too shall pass” and feel the truth of this. Nothing comes to stay; it all passes by to become a part of our past. See yourself happily in the future where the current negativity has no effect on you.
- Remember that the reason you are emotionally shaken is because you left your heart, which knows and holds truth, and instead entered the realm of your mind, which is the only place that allows doubt and fear to exist. Take the journey from the head to the heart immediately. You can do simple, but profound gestures to facilitate that journey:
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- A simple act like placing your hand on your heart can help point out to your being where your center of focus should reside
- Taking a physical step forward with the intention of it representing your step away from what is untrue towards what is true
- Imagine a marble, which symbolizes a miniature version of you, taking the journey from your head to your heart
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- Take command back. Speak to the negative thing as if it were an entity outside of you, separate from you because it is. For example, say to the negative thing:
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- You do not concern me.
- You cannot affect me unless I allow you to, and I do not.
- In truth, you are just a thought, which is just air, unless I let you in and give you a place to live, and you may not take up residence in my being.
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- Find and use your emotional wings. Use THIS EXERCISE, inspired by a poem by Victor Hugo, as part of personal practice to understand how to use the energetic stance of flying upward when there is something pulling you downward. Finding this feeling within you will reveal the deep truth and certainty that you need never be a victim of anything negative again. When you have the ability to fly away from a thing, emotionally, you are forever free.
- If you train yourself to recognize when you first get an emotional “hit,” then you can avoid some of the steps that would be needed to get free of the things that can happen within you after you’ve let it in. Therefore, you can literally prevent the negative thing from “taking” or “setting” within you. So, practice recognizing how an emotional “hit” feels. Scan yourself when one happens, but better yet, think back to those you’ve experienced in the past and do a survey:
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- Did you feel weak?
- Did you feel sick?
- Were you struck with doubt?
- Did you feel immobilized?
- Were you confused?
- Did you get negative looping thoughts?
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When Panic Hits
When tough stuff comes up, we often feel a flood of panic hit our adrenaline system. As a result, this can easily cripple, or even paralyze, the decision-making process, leaving us unfit to deal with the situation successfully. Knowing how it feels when we are taken down allows us to more quickly get back in the driver’s seat. Moreover, we can head in the right direction again.
Resiliency is often thought of as a survival skill, and that is true, but here we are speaking about emotional resiliency, not physical resiliency. We are talking about the survival of our sanity, our happiness, our dreams, and the quality of our life. Emotional resiliency increases our capacity to remain level-headed and to use high degrees of wisdom to navigate our way through tough situations for better results.
In conclusion, something negative might come into our awareness or our experience. We don’t have to allow it into the halls of our being to take up residence there. It is our right and our choice what we allow into the inner realms of our being. We alone are the custodians of our wellbeing, our life’s unfolding, and our happiness. What will shape and define us is what we allow in. So, we want to ensure we only allow in things of the highest quality.
Lastly, here is a list of other posts that might interest you:
The Secret To Bounce Back From Negative Events
Where Pain Actually Comes From
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